I want to share with you something that happened to me in the shower the other day. (Don’t get crazy on me, I’m not going down that road.)
Maybe it was because it was the only time that day that I’d had some alone time but I was a bit frazzled and honestly, just in need of some peace from the Lord. And He delivered. I had been heading down a rabbithole of self-loathing/comparison/binge-eating-Sprees because I was trying to figure out what kind of mother I was supposed to be. Bud has been developing quite the strong will (his father’s
fault gift) and so I’ve been trying to discern what kind of discipline and consequences I was going to employ. Yah… I said employ. I had talked to several mom friends that I love and trust, read some books, scoured some blogs, etc. And had tried a few things that I thought were the answer but nothing felt right.
So I was standing in the shower not shaving my legs and praying that God would give me the wisdom and discernment I needed. Then it happened. The Peace happened. It washed over me just as my $1.89 Suave shampoo did.
I have made you to be the kind of mother Bud needs. You. Not anyone else. You. You don’t need to emulate anyone else except Me. I will give you the wisdom and discernment you need, but I have equipped you with everything you need to be the kind of mother you should be. Humorous, sarcastic at times, and patient. Find peace my child in using the attributes that I have given you, that I created in you so that you can be just the kind of mother your children need.
WHHAA!??!!? I stepped out of that shower in awe and feeling like I’d just spent a full day at the spa. I don’t need to follow anyone else’s parenting plan or try and emulate someone else’s discipline tactics. I need to embrace the fact that the God who made beautiful and breath-taking creations like the Grand Canyon and Chick-Fil-A made me with the same hands. He wants me to be ME when I parent. Not someone else.
So I wish that for you too. Whatever it is, whether its being a parent or your job or a hobby… do it with the flair that only you have. He’s created you for that fill in the blank, stop trying to do it like someone else.